There are many pivotal moments in life when we arrive at a crossroad and are faced to decide which way to travel. Panic and sometimes the absolute fear of not knowing the outcome of each turn can paralyze our footsteps, leaving us motionless, thus, causing a complete standstill. These are the very moments when we need to push ourselves to limits that we never knew existed in us, believing in the power of our inner voice, one that is always there to guide us, we simply need to just trust and listen. We are faced with countless obstacles, some at times leave us asking why and how this could be happening, rather than viewing these as “struggles”, we need to stretch our minds, view these as lessons that we are meant to learn from, which will allow us to grow and become even more aware of who we are and where we are meant to be. My friend surprised me with a sweatshirt that says, “Everything you go through grows you”, I love this message, it is a truth, the way life should be canvassed. Our journeys are unique, designed for each of us, accepting the path, trusting the process and believing what is occurring is meant for us to reach new heights of understanding in ourselves and in others. I have faced infinite obstacles, but, I have chosen to listen and to see them as blessings, especially the tough ones because in those moments, is where I grow leaps and bounds.
Sunday School taught, the devil is the ultimate evil, hell was where anyone who believed in him, worshiped him, or engaged in horrible acts would go. It sounds like a mythical story, with no concrete evidence of this existence. Is it possible, as a human to be deemed evil, that some are destined for this place called hell or is it, they will endure a life unfulfilled, one with no purpose, and never know or find true peace and happiness? I don’t believe a soul is born evil or is destined to encompass evil, however, I do believe some souls, will never learn the lessons designated for them. Each one of us is here to convey lessons unique to our soul, but not all conquer the request intended for them. For some, it may be a lifetime, others many more, until they are willing to heal their past and receive the lessons intended for them. Evil does not reside in a human, although some portray evil traits, that is not evil, it is simply living in the dark. Only within ourselves, can we adjust our destiny, awaken to the signs circling us and the light that guides us all to a life with purpose and meaning. Do not let the souls who have not learned dim your light, instead stand in your brilliance of love and understanding. There is no evil, there is only a misunderstanding of one another.
With darkness comes light.
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“Your physical body is surrounded by an energy field that extends as far out as your outstretched arms and the full length of your body. We are constantly “in communication” with everything around us through this system, which is a kind of conscious electricity that transmits and receives messages to and from other people’s bodies.” This was written by Caroline Myss, author of “Anatomy Of The Spirit”.
In my life, I have been aware of how somebody or a situation, can manifest certain feelings inside of me. Reading this book opened my eyes to a whole new world in regards to our bodies capabilities. I grasp the knowledge of feelings when someone or something is not sound or when they are welcoming, however, never completely understanding why they occur. Most, don’t look at themselves or others as energetic beings, realizing we all have energy inside of us, moving, flowing, sending vibrations outwards as well as in. Without this knowledge, we give our power to others, believing they are the source for our feelings, good or bad. Understanding why a person or a situation can leave you exhausted or blessed, you need to go inwards to your soul, the core of your body. Acknowledging each of our past experiences can prevent triggers for our future ones, allowing us to understand ourselves and the patterns instilled within us. Viewing my own past, I began to recognize my own triggers, my patterns and was able to consciously see how and why I either “liked” or “disliked” a person or setting. As energetic beings, we are powerful, capable of so many wonderful things, but not knowing or understanding ourselves can leave us defenseless. It has been said to me “I have this energy about me”, I never fully understood that but today I do and I have fully engulfed this compliment and cherish the work I have accomplished within myself to be authentic and stand in my power of ME.
What you give to the world you will receive back. What are you presenting to the world? If it is not what you want, how can you change that?
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After writing on reality and perception in my last blog, I had a beautiful epiphany. I know that my big “ah-hah” moment was prompted by my Facebook memory that popped up to remind me of my dad’s passing. I returned to the CaringBridge website that I had created for him 6 years ago and reread all of my journal entries. I have always known that I have absolutely no regrets of that period of time and all that occurred. Rereading my messages, filled me with an overwhelming feeling of love. A 100% pure love of my relationship with my dad and my soul’s belief in myself as a true, authentic woman. I feel blessed for this, for a variety of reasons, but most importantly, I have no regrets, no should of, could of, would of or if’s. I know I lived and breathed each moment of each day I had with him right up to the second of his last and final breath. I realize that not everyone may see or understand these blessings as I see, or the way I chose to view this experience, but for me, it has allowed me to move on, live life, and be a true happy person, just the way he would want it. I see many people who get stuck after losing someone they love, almost like they are frozen in time. Death is something many do not want to speak of, think of, or learn of, but reality is, we all will die. Living your life with no regrets frees you from being stuck in a place, it allows you to move on, this doesn’t just apply to death, it is living this way, with all relationships and experiences. I have realized that what allows me-or anyone-to live without regrets means CHOOSING to live in a manner that does not create regret. One of the “ah-hahs” within my epiphany is the recognition that to live so that I don’t have regrets means that I am choosing to be ME, authentic, truthful, kind and honest. I wanted to share one of my entries I wrote in my dad’s site, simply because it shows the love, the reality, and living in some of the toughest moments of life.
January 16, 2013
“Today was a very hard day. Got lots of questions answered and had some talks with my dad. They had to put in a feeding tube in his nose as he failed his swallow test. I know this makes him mad, as all he talks about is drinking a Coke 🙂 He needs this though to try and get some strength. The team of heart surgeons meet tomorrow to discuss his case, but the heart doctors, do not believe he will be a candidate for this. Too many other problems going on. I asked where we go then from here? They said right now it is a day to day thing. Watch his labs and see what his body is going to do. I love his kidney doctor, he is honest, and kind. He believes IF he did surgery at some point, that all these other factors would make it hard for him to have a somewhat normal life. I asked my dad today if he still wanted to be a full code. He said no. I also talked to him and told him everything is his choice right now. He can at anytime say he has had enough and go home with hospice. At the end of the visit, he cried and told me to go home so he could think…… Nothing could break my heart more. I would do anything for him. But at the end, it is all in his control. For as long as I can remember I have talked to my dad every single day on the phone, sometimes more. Through my mom’s passing, we have helped each other out. I thank God today for letting him get this tube out and being able to kiss him and talk to him. I will hold onto all of that. Thank you for your kind words, love, and prayers!!”
This was a reminder that no matter what was going on, I was real, true, and loving and consider myself truly blessed for this. I believe so many times, people walk away from someone and have nothing but questions, wondering what they did or what they could have done. I know, I have been there, but, there is something so beautiful about just believing that sometimes, things end. We don’t always get the answers we seek, the validation we want, the closure that we had hoped for, but if you know in your heart that you did or said all you could do, all that is left, is to let go.
Do you live with regrets? If you do, how could you approach life and your current or future experiences in a manner that leaves you filled with loving gratitude and no regrets? How can you change that, so you don’t live that way again?
These are some of my favorite pictures of a life with my dad, each memory, a time forever ingrained in my mind, with no regrets, just love.
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Albert Einstein said, “ Reality is merely an illusion, albeit a very persistent one”.
So is perception our reality? Or is it reality is our perception?
I ponder this statement today as my Facebook memories popped up to tell me, it was 6 years ago that my dad passed away. Yes, I really did forget this, which I find as a positive thing, as it informs me that I healed my grief following my Dad’s passing. This event did not change my reality- it changed my life, but it didn’t make me perceive things differently. I know I have challenged myself through life to not let things that happened to me, to become my reality. Might sound strange to some, but to me it all makes sense, for it allowed me to be more aware of my feelings and to put things in a positive light as I needed them to be. I know I have done this since I was a little girl, back then life was different for me than anyone else in my family, I always felt alone and I would say the “black sheep” of the family. I was always told I was too sensitive, but also I was too hyper, talk about a bag of mixed emotions. I know I was a deeply sensitive, feeling and loving being, who also loved life and wanted everyone to be happy. With the terms of hyper and too sensitive I also was the peacekeeper, as my parents argued all the time. My sister took my mom’s side and I took my dad’s, as I never wanted anyone feeling alone. With all the roles I took on, I was the family comedian as well,there was always some kind of tension in our lives, and for me to make them laugh even for 5 minutes was my way of coping and bringing smiles to their faces. I know it was my wanting them to see life could be lived differently, but at a young age, I didn’t know how to do that. I remember childhood, always dreaming and imagining the different life I was going to have, one where I was able to just be ME. When my mom became sick, I was in 8th grade, my role became caregiver. My sister graduated from high school and moved on to college, as I was just starting high school, and left to care for both of our parents, while trying to be a normal teenager in school. High school was probably the hardest time of my life, not because of my mom, but I believe that was the main reason for me making many bad decisions. Drinking, boyfriends, and really anything that my parents would not allow me to do. I guess, I would say it was how I coped, a way of not dealing with what was going on and the only way I knew to make my own choices. I never told my mom once how it was so hard to not have her be a mom during that time, I knew I could never hurt her that way. With that, I knew it was not going to change what had already happened, that I had to keep believing it was all for a higher purpose and one day I would know what that was. I know my friends always felt sorry for me and what I had going on in my life, but reality was I knew they could never actually know what it was like. They all lived a different life, never having to call 911 countless times for their moms or feeling the total burden of having to be a grown up in a teenage body. Do you know that feeling of being all alone? After graduation, I was one of the only ones in my friend group who was not going off to college, it was a choice that I made, knowing I could not leave my mom and dad. I would not call it a noble choice, it was a choice that I felt I had to make, almost like I made a prior commitment to all of this. I know this is how I view my life, that I had a prior contract before I came, that I choose my parents, this family, to teach them and to learn from them so that my Soul could grow and evolve. I have never thought of my life as a bad life, did bad things happen? Of course, but I also believe that happens in everyone’s lives, it is just how we perceive what happens to us, and the experiences we have, which creates our realities. The beautiful thing is we are also empowered with the ability to interrupt what our own perception of reality is. If we don’t like it, we have the power to change it. I know when I tell people I am the only one left in my family and the story of my parents dying close together and my sister who committed suicide, they are almost shocked that I am the way I am. I am healthy, positive, well adjusted, hopeful, and believe in the power of being human. I don’t worry anymore about what people think, because that is their perception, not mine. That is how life is, we perceive what we think is someone’s reality, but never knowing exactly what it was or is like to live in their shoes. If we only remembered this, we would never judge, mistreat, or form a judgment of someone. I used to wonder how I got through my life, how I did not end up like my sister, did not become a victim of my life, and ultimately, was able to be who I am now. I know it was for the awareness of my feelings, feeling all I had and needed to, and that all would be ok. I chose my reality back then of hope, love, and knowing that there was something more than just what appeared “on the surface.” I will always feel blessed for my life, my family, and what my reality was then, for it allowed me to go through so much more of my life events trusting, resilient, and being aware of how and where I was meant to be.
What would you change about your current reality today if you could?