Not Alone :)

So lately I find myself having to explain why I am not dating.  I actually almost laugh at this, for the true reason,  that no one can just be alone.  I have said before I never got divorced to go and date.  I got divorced because I was not happy and not in love, the kind of love that I wanted to be in.  I almost find it appalling that there are SO many out there who either get divorced, or break up with someone and have to literally, go to dating apps and start dating people right away.  I would love to know how do these people change themselves?  How do you not take a look and see that IF something didn’t work out, you would want to correct it for your next relationship, or to start dating?  I believe NO matter who wanted the break-up, it is always a two way street, meaning if you didn’t want the break-up, it is still a good time to evaluate yourself.  I am not expert, but I can literally see how many desperate people there are out in this world, and honestly I do NOT want anything to do with that.  I have spent over the last year, learning who I am, why I am here and what I am meant to do here.  I have taken different classes, tried new things, got out of my comfort zone more times than I can count, and I have loved every minute of it.  To be in a place were I truly can say I love me, is a place I never thought I would get to.  To be on MY path and believing in myself is one of the most exhilarating feelings I have ever had.  Is it scary being “alone”?  At one time, yes, it did scare me, but I learned to let go of that fear and believe whatever is meant to happen in my life will happen…  But I would like to say I am not alone.  Being alone literally means: apart, or isolated from others, that is not were I have been once this whole time.  Being alone, is just not having a significant other in your life.  I am not sure why that is a bad thing or when that became one.  I surely do not like hearing people or anyone thinking that I am sad, or feel bad for me.  I haven chosen this path and honestly would never trade it in.  To learn about yourself, love yourself, and accomplish things you want to do in your life, is a great thing.  I honestly feel so very blessed to have had all this time to be with my kids, friends and what family I do have!  Alone, never.  I might still live in a fairy tale state that my soulmate is out there and that we will meet again when the time is right, but that is honestly what I chose to believe and for now I like it that way.  I know what I want from a relationship and will never settle again.  To be your true self and live an authentic life is a freeing feeling.  I love showing my girls, that you don’t need to have a guy in your life to be happy, because I think that is so important for them to see.  I shuddered to think of what they would have thought if I started a dating right after leaving there dad…  Because honestly, it would have all been disastrous!!  I honestly appreciate anyone who has wanted to set me up, but I am good :). I am right were I want to be, doing exactly what I want to do.

This pic is from today, me and my girls out shopping, these are the times and things I am so thankful for.IMG_8160

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