When you see, speak or think of the word love, what comes to your mind? I bet many would say their kids, spouse/partner, friends, family, but what about yourself? I used to answer the question the same way, I love my kids, my family, friends, but I was never in that equation and if I was it would be the last thing I said. I think this world has lost the ability to love in so many ways and what we have been taught in life about love is so not what it is. Self love is truly the ability to see yourself in all positive ways, regards for one’s own well-being and happiness. Love starts with YOU, what and how you feel about yourself is what you literally project into the world, so when you are unhappy with who you are, what message are you sending out there? What is it that you are teaching your kids? I know for me once I got divorced I wanted to change that, to actually start loving myself truly, not just liking me. I wanted to show my two girls to be strong, empowered woman, to be good loving people. Not to fall into what friends and the world tells them, but to have the power to know themselves, to be happy with everything about them and knowing if you don’t like something, you can change that. I believe for woman/girls this is a much harder task than it is for men. I don’t like getting into one sex over the other, but I would say that my son does not struggle with this at all, men don’t judge other men, think negative about other men, not like woman do. The world has always put men in a different category than woman, we have been made to believe we are not as worthy, need to be a certain size, look a certain way, ultimately not to be who we want to be, to allow us to be happy and have self love. It all starts with you, loving you, not caring what anyone thinks or judges about you. The more positive you are about who you are, the more positive you are sending out into this world, and I believe that is what we all need and want. One of my favorite quotes from Wayne Dyer is: “If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change”. I believe we all have that power to change anything that does not make us happy and to have the ability to have self love. A wise person once sent me this, I love it and find it to be so true:
“You are love and we all are love….most people forgot. They think love is something we do….not something we are”.
So starting the new week, think about that, do you do love or are you love?
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