Would you rather…

I talked to one of my dearest friends this past week, who I have known since 6th grade I believe.  I was telling her about all the things that have been going on with Press and the challenges that we have and continue to face.  We started going back in time to things that happened when we were that age and honestly it made me know without a doubt I am so thankful that I grew up in a time with NO social media, no technology, absolutely nothing, but a pencil, paper and a phone that hung on a wall in the kitchen.

We both agreed, what kids endure and go through now a days is far more traumatic than what we ever had to deal with.  Yes, we can all think of a bully that was in our school, or who the wrong group of people might have been, but can you imagine if you grew up with social media?  How all of that magnifies by a million times?  If you are in a fight with a friend, everyone knows by the click of a button?  Anything you say or do is captured and sent out to the world?  I think the worst part is there is NO one teaching these kids about what you put out there is OUT there, to stay.  It doesn’t go away even if deleted.  We also talked about how kids turn into zombies with their phones, or whatever means they have to social media. That they are NOT even in the same world as we are, they might give you a grunt, a moan, or nothing at all.  That their every waking moment is focused on how many likes or whose snap is waiting for them.  They have become totally lost from living.  I can not tell you how much I have and continue to learn from this experience.  I thought I had a handle on what Press was doing and who she was as a person, but honestly, if you are not a strong enough person, (which most preteens are not) you get sucked into this fantasy world of social media.  We also talked about mental health, and when you are growing up you are not equipped to deal with all of this stuff that social media brings with it.  I started reading different articles and was totally shocked, but not surprised that when SnapChat began, depression also rose in teens and preteens.  Totally makes sense.  Thinking back to my day, yes maybe people heard rumors, or knew you and your boyfriend broke up, but it was a she said/ he said thing, nothing to prove anyone right or wrong.  Now, there are texts, screen shots, pictures, the list goes on and there is NO escaping what you have said or what you have done.  I have so much empathy for my girl, I don’t know and blessed to not have ever had to know what it is like to live that way.  Me and my friend both agreed their are obvious pros and cons to our time and now, but really there are many more pros on our list.  

Moving forward I will start talking more about what has been going on with Press and what we have and continue to have to face with this whole experience.  For me the bottom line is, I want my girl back, I want her happy, I want her to have self love and honestly I don’t ever want social media in her life, till I know she is in a good place and is strong enough to handle what is all out there.  My age, we all survived without it, we understand what it all means today, but can you imagine what our lives would have been back then, IF there was social media?   I think we would all agree we would be different people today, that our childhood and teen years would not have been as good as they were.  I feel I lived my life, it didn’t play out with my friends on phone, it was talking, calling and writing notes, all things that take effort and a thought process.  What would you chose?  Would you rather grow up today?  Or in a time when things were a lot easier?

Perfect example…  She asked to use my phone to text her dad and she can’t resist taking pics. 🙂

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13 thoughts on “Would you rather…

  1. My children are adults now, but many of my nieces and nephews are not and live with the reality of social media on a daily basis. I would not want to be a parent traversing the landmines of social media. Thank you for your insight. It is a “brave new world” but whether or not it’s a better world is questionable.

    1. I’m definitely glad that my childhood took place in the 50’s! The struggles of life have been challenging enough, I can’t even imagine what today’s kids are going through. And you also illuminated a very important factor. Kids are not being educated as to the dangers of these devices. Social media has become their educator — talk about learning the hard way. Thank you for this post. I’ll keep your daughter in my prayers.

      1. Thank you A.P., for commenting. Yes schools do not do any kind of educating and I believe that should change! They need to be up on what is going on in the kids lives. Parents need a class as well to learn about different apps etc… it will change, it has too! Thank you again.

  2. Whilst I love the internet with a rare passion (because it brought the world to me) I do understand how important it is to meet friends for lunch or coffee and write the occasional letter by HAND! I had lunch with some old friends recently and it required an enormous amount of energy and commitment to the conversation just to communicate and listen effectively and the buzz has remained with me for days. I felt really alive just being with them. Yes, being in real time connecting face-to-face with real people is the stuff of life. Thanks for the post and maybe encourage Press to invite some friends over for a dinner party or high tea.

    1. Thank you for your comment. I do as well love my technology, but the key is balance and these younger beings, are not really receiving that. I do love the idea of a dinner party! Thank you!!

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